Oops!

Sorry about the super teaser on the last post.  Apparently the picture didn't not show up (at least for some) even though it did in my preview.  I'm going to try one more time here, but if it doesn't work, I will post the "sneak peek" along with all of the pictures when I get home and have a regular computer instead of the iPad.

(Cross your fingers.)

Day 2 (Tuesday) - A Sneak Peek

We were told not to post pictures until we actually get home, so this is just a sneak peek.  For those who have seen their pictures, you may notice that Milcho's hair is longer, and Vanessa's is shorter. 

 We had most of the day to ourselves.  We spent the morning trying to keep them out of the kitchen.  They are not used to having free access to all the food, and they want to eat it all the time.  It's kind of like going on a cruise.  You're not starving when you go on board but it's there all the time and looks new and inviting.  We also had quite a bit of practice with "no".  Vanessa thinks it is quite funny to be told not to do something (or TO DO something).  At least at first.  If we persist (which we do), she then may stomp her foot, fuss, etc.  If that doesn't work, she may start crying.  But at some point in the process, she gets distracted and is suddenly  and miraculously fine.  So we just hold out until the distraction.

You know how we have "central" heat at home?  Well, here they have truly "centralized" heat and the government has not turned it on yet for the winter season.  Meanwhile, you do have small units installed in the wall near the ceiling in each room.  It's a lot like having space heaters, I guess.  So far, none of ours work, and tonight it is supposed to be 32 degrees.  By lunch I had on my shirt, fleece vest, hoodie sweater, and rain jacket, and I was pacing trying to warm up.  Now I admit, I am excessively cold-natured, but even the kids were wearing their jackets. (Update: After some advice this afternoon from another couple traveling this week, we have them working a little.  Still cool, but I'm not visibly shivering.)

After lunch, we had to go for the medical check-up.  Not a big deal, but a very long wait in a very small space that actually got hot.  We were dropped off again at our apartment and headed out for supper.  We decided to pull out all the stops and jump in head first...we went to McDonald's.  They seemed familiar with it already but not completely at home.  While we were there two Roma kids were run out and came back in the side door.  They were going through begging.  For the most part people just "didn't see" them.  Milcho and Vanessa wanted a McDonald's doughnut for dessert, so we got them on the way out.  The walk back to the apartment was now very cold.  I noticed once that Milcho did a double take at a man we passed who was going through a dumpster.  I wondered what he was thinking. (Earlier while driving, I saw a man at a dumpster with a liter juice carton turned straight up drinking from it, and then he threw it back in and kept looking.)  I wondered if Milcho, even at his young age, thinks about how his life could have turned out so differently.

As bedtime drew near, something happened with Milcho.  I'm still not sure what, but we hope our translator can help us straighten things out tomorrow.  I think there was a misunderstanding about his using the phone.  We knew he was waiting for a call from his teacher but asked him not to make any other calls tonight...just wait for that one.  His teacher called about 30 minutes later than expected, and when Tim took him the phone, he refused to talk to her.  Then he wouldn't talk any more to us.  Long story short, the situation was smoothed over, somebody called him, and he got ready for bed seemingly satisfied.  In the meantime, Vanessa and I had another battle of the wills -- we've had several small ones, but this one was on the heels of all the others and lasted a really long time. Basically I was trying to convince her that while I love her, she still needs to listen to me and do what I say.  Her reaction to this was "no" and I think her version of "never!"  I held my ground through her tears (and eventually Milcho's) and then fell into tears myself once the fit was over and they had both calmed down and gone to bed.  I didn't mean to cry and tried not to let them see, but honestly I was exhausted myself.  When they saw my tears, they seemed very concerned and snuggly.  All I could do was assure them that I love them and that everything was okay.

I never expected them to be perfect.  I know we have quite an adjustment ahead of us.  Hey, my bio kids aren't perfect either.  But simply put, that was hard!  --on everyone!  But I truly believe in my heart they are worth the effort.  Now, I'm even more tired, and I'm going to bed.

The Trip and Day 1 (Monday)

We left Saturday about 1:00 pm and flew to Charlotte. As we left there, the temperature was in the low to mid 70's, and Sofia was predicting the same for our arrival. As our plane approached Munich for landing, we were shocked to hear that it was currently snowing there!  We were not dressed for snow, and this was the one airport where we took a bus out to the plane and boarded from outside.   Brrr!

Once we were in Sofia (now Sunday) and settled into our apartment, we headed out for dinner and ice cream.  We were so very tired but stayed up as long as we could to adjust to the time.  Monday we headed to Montana to pick up the kids.  We left at 7:30am and didn't get back until about 5:30pm. We met with each orphanage director (a fill-in director at one).  Next we got to meet their teachers!  That was a treat.  They truly seemed happy for the kids and a little sad to see them go.  Each of them made sure we left with a way to contact them if we had questions or anything. Oh, and just before we began the trip back (about 2.5 hours), they informed us that Vanessa gets car sick. They gave us some pills (to be taken with food but she had not recently eaten) and some plastic bags and napkins.   We did end up using one bag and stopping a couple of times. We completely missed lunch and had to go straight to the police station to do paperwork and pictures for passports.  

By the time we finished, everyone was starving. Our translator dropped us off at our apartment, and we set out for our first solo venture with the kids. We decided to go to the one place we were most familiar with... The Pizza Palace. We struggled to understand each other, but we managed to place an order and eat. 

After dinner, we still needed to stop for a few groceries before heading home. The kids asked for a couple of treats each, and we asked them to choose some cheese, sandwich meat, and even some yogurt and granola we thought would be good for breakfast. All of our food may have filled two Walmart bags back home. Now, I believe these kids have been fed just fine, but by the looks on their faces when we put it all on the checkout counter would have convinced you we were preparing a feast. I'm not sure they can handle Thanksgiving in a few weeks!   : )  They were grinning so big!  When we were back out on the sidewalk, Milcho thanked me and kissed my cheek for all of their purchases. 

Although, I've read adoption material about watching how much they eat (so they don't overeat), I was still surprised that they wanted to eat everything before bedtime. They had not finished their pizza, so I thought they were full. We finally said no, and told them to wait until tomorrow for more. 

Later we had two Skype calls with Colton and Eli, watched a little TV, and Milcho made several phone calls to people like his teacher who had given him phone numbers to take with him.  I could tell he was telling them everything he did today. It's his way of staying connected to them just a little longer.  

Finally we tackled baths and got ready for bed.  Bedtime took a really long time. Just about the time I thought they would soon be asleep, they got a second wind and the lights went on.  The next thing I knew, Milcho and I were trying to have a conversation on the iPad with the translator while Tim and Vanessa were coloring. Our second attempt at bedtime resulted in our lying down with them, and everyone went to sleep. I woke up and snuck back in my room to finish writing this. 

Already they seem to be very loving. They like to touch us, hold our hands, hug and kiss us, or just be near us. I could tell Milcho was correcting Vanessa a few times which made me grin. Milcho has already expressed some sadness to be leaving, but when asked if he was happy to be here tonight, he said he was very pleased. 

I'm anxious to get back to a place and routine I am familiar with, but I know what is my comfort zone is completely the opposite for them. We really must begin working on English tomorrow, so we can communicate more comfortably. Besides, my translator only works here at the apartment where I have wifi. 

Tomorrow we have their medical visits. It's basically a formality required for travel, not anything extensive. I think of it like the sports physicals back home, more of a wellness screening for paperwork. But in keeping with our family tradition, ice cream may be required afterward.    : ) 

Emotional Rollercoaster

High:  Travel dates confirmed!  Yay!  We leave in 8 days.  We can start making travel plans.

Low:  We leave in 8 days.  The house isn't ready.

High:  I finally got new measurements.  We can shop.

Low:  We leave in 8 days.  The house isn't ready, and I have a lot of shopping to do.

Low:  We leave in 8 days.  I'm going to have to stop school for a while, and MAYBE I will get most of it finished.

High:  Two offers of help to get it all finished.

High:  TKD class went well.  Colton tests tonight for his black belt.  Way to go Colton!!

Low:  Back home to the house.

High:  Memaw took the kids for the afternoon so I can work.

LOW LOW LOW:  Got a letter from the last remaining grant.  Turned down.  This was after what felt like a build up from them and our agency that this was one of the more likely ones we would get.

Now, I'm just sitting here with the house in a mess and our last financial support pulled out from under us.  This leaves us a good $7000-8000 short.  Last time we just cleaned out our savings account and our emergency fund to make the trip.  We've not been able to put any of that back.  So we can't do that this time.  Not that a yard sale would help at this point, but half of it has already been donated.   The other half, I've almost finished packing up.

You know, it really doesn't matter.  Cash on hand or not, we leave in 8 days to get our kids.  And we will.  This is just another pothole on this journey.  No one promised a newly paved road.  Just that the trip would be worth it in the end.  And it HAS.

Your prayers for us on how we should approach the rest of this journey would be appreciated.  Pray also that the cost of travel and lodging would come in under our expectations.  And a special one: that at least one flight attendant on the return overseas flight would be able to speak at least some Bulgaria.  (Hey, it doesn't hurt to ask!)

HIGH:  We leave in 8 days to get our kids!

Grants and a Homeschool Update

Yesterday we heard from one of the remaining two grants:  they turned us down.  That's okay.  There's still one more out, and more importantly God is still orchestrating the whole thing.   We will most likely travel in about 2 weeks, so there is no more time to apply for another grant (even if I could find another one) or hold another fundraiser.  I do still have bracelets for sale, and I can still make ear warmers and such.  All of these items can be found on the Olive Tree Promise website, or you can contact me directly if you are interested.  We also still have the Just Love Coffee website if you'd like to order coffee.  The donation button on the right is still active as well.  Many, many of you have generously given already, and I'm not asking you to give again.  But if anyone has not donated or purchased anything and would like to help out, I just wanted you know that it isn't too late, and we do still need funding.

Enough about that.  I received the ceiling mounted curtain track Thursday for Vanessa's room.  Hopefully we will get that up in the next day or so.  Then we can measure for the curtains and get them made.  Once that is done, perhaps I will go ahead and post pictures of the rooms.  I almost did it Thursday until the track arrived.  Then I decided I should wait just a couple more days so I could show you a better picture.

For you homeschoolers, I'm sure you will understand that getting everything done has been difficult.  My time is torn between school, usual housework, monumental reorganization and redecorating, preparing for church, and adoption work.  But my original schedule had about 3 weeks for Christmas break, so if we have to use  some of that because we get behind, so be it.  Our school year will be finished when all of the work is done -- whenever that is.

I just changed Colton's history curriculum.  He finished volume 4 of Story of the World last year.  I thought I'd try Mystery of History this year just to change things up.  Now, I don't have anything against this particular history choice, but Colton really enjoys history and wasn't feeling like he was getting enough out of it.  The fault probably lies a good bit with me, because even at this point in the year, I didn't have all parts of the program ready to go.  For example, I just now got his timeline made, so we haven't been added to that for each chapter; and I had not really been giving him any of the activities along the way because I didn't have time to review everything before he needed to move on to the next lesson.  So, again, nothing against MOH, but it just wasn't working for us at this time.  (But thanks, Jennifer, for loaning me the book.  At least I wasn't out any money on that.)  So we've switched to Sonlight.  Pricey - yes.  But I got most of my books used, so I saved well over $100 doing it that way.  If you aren't familiar with this curriculum, there are a couple of books that you use like textbooks, but then there are maybe 40 books to read that go along with the time period you are studying.  It could be a fictional book like Old Yeller or a biography like the one about Thomas Alva Edison.  (The course I chose was American History, in case you were wondering.)  Colton loves to read, so I think he will get a lot out of this program.

Eli's school work is coming right along.  So far he is following in his brother's footsteps as far as curriculum is concerned.  Like Colton at that age, though, his biggest hindrance is just getting past the fact of life that he HAS to do school.  When he cooperates, we fly through our work.  If he doesn't want to do school, it takes forever, and everyone is unhappy. Of course, at second grade he still needs a lot of my involvement.  Colton's fifth grade work needs me very little.  Oh, Colton gave me a surprise this week by telling me that he was enjoying writing paragraphs for grammar!  He had one "paragraph" that lasted for a page and a half because he was enjoying telling his story.  He is surprisingly good for his age at using transition words and sentence variety.

Introducing...

Okay, the title is a bit of a teaser.  I still can't post pictures, but I'm told I can post their names.  So, please welcome Milcho Thomas DeMoss and Vanessa Elizabeth DeMoss.  (Pictures to follow in a few weeks.)  Both of our bio boys have middle names that are from family.  Colton has "James" from my mom's grandfather, and Eli has "Robert" from Tim's mom's parents.  (Her dad was named Robert AND her mom's maiden name was Roberts!)  So in keeping with that family tradition, Milcho has gotten "Thomas" from a great-grandfather of Tim's, and Vanessa has gotten "Elizabeth" from my mom's mother.  (I know you feel better knowing all of that!)

We learned today that our Court Day yesterday apparently DID happen.  Milcho and Vanessa are officially our children.  A friend recently told me that on her court day (for a domestic adoption -- so, she was actually there), the judge told her that she was now more legal bound to her child than to her husband.  Imagine that!  Now, I'm really itching to go get them.  The court decree still has to be finalized (possibly next week), and then we should know for sure when we will travel.

We almost have their rooms ready.  The boys' room is basically done although I would still like to hang a few pictures.  Vanessa's room just needs the wall-to-wall curtain hung in front of the storage shelves, and I need to empty her closet.  Next we need to stock their closets.  I'm hoping we get updated clothing and shoe sizes very soon so we can go shopping.  I may have plenty of clothes for Milcho already unless Colton skipped a size from one fall to the next.  I've not yet finished getting rid of all of the yard sale stuff, so I've not yet moved everything out of the house and into the garage that I can.  (I just want a clean house!)  I will try to post pictures before we travel.  It's a little crowded, but I'm ultimately pleased with how it has turned out.

I know I've met a few bloggers who have already adopted from Bulgaria.  If you are still checking my blog, can you offer any advice?  I would be especially interested in any suggested recipes.  I may only have 3 or 4 weeks to acclimate their taste buds before they get slammed with Thanksgiving.  Poor kids!  Then again, what an opportunity to sample a lot of different foods!  I've already told my mom that I would try to fix a crockpot of some kind of soup they would like because I understand soup is either a very common dish or maybe they have it with almost every meal.

Finally, I noticed that my last post still included the I "Heart" Adoption promo by Show Hope.  Thanks to everyone who voted.  They didn't report the exact final tally, but the last totals I saw had us in 3rd place.  Not bad.  I never thought we knew enough people to make it to 1500, but I was glad to see that we hung right in there with everyone else.  It turns out they counted the hearts AND the likes (I think there was some confusion, so they just counted everything).  Even with that, we still didn't make it to 1500.  But since we were all being guinea pigs in this little promo, they graciously awarded us a bonus to our grants anyway.  As you can see by the thermometer on the right, we haven't quite reached our goal, so we certainly would never turn down a donation even at this point.  It has been amazing to watch God bring His plan to fulfillment.  Even if every dime doesn't come in before we go, we know that he is going to get it all covered.  We're just along for the ride.

Court Date!

We have a court date!!  Our Bulgarian team will be appearing before a judge on October 9 to finalize our adoption.  M & V will be legally our children in all ways except that they are staying with "friends" in another country.  : )  

Once they are declared ours, we should find out when we will travel.  The estimate is 4 weeks but could be sooner or later.  (I know, that doesn't clear up a whole lot.)  They need passports that reflect their new names (DeMoss, that is), and birth certificates that have their new names and our names as their parents.  When all documents are ready and the orphanage directors accept them, then we can travel so we can complete a VISA interview at the US embassy in Bulgaria, gather all documents, and bring our kiddos home.

The month of September marks 5 years since we decided to get on this ride.  I'm so glad it is coming to a close.  I can't wait to have all of my family under the same roof.

Last thing.  If you haven't voted for us yet in Show Hope's adoption awareness  promo, please do.  You can click on the link (or picture) on the side bar.  It seems you can click on our picture, and then click the heart button AND the like button.  It's kind of like two votes at once.  Please share with your friends as well.  We need 1500 votes to earn some extra adoption cash, and I don't really think we even KNOW that many people.  Voting ends Sunday, September 30.